There’s a new word in the English Language. In fact, it’s not even a new word, it just has a new meaning. What is that word I hear you ask? Ghosting. When looking up the definition of ghosting on the ever so reliable Urban Dictionary, it says: ‘The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just “get the hint” and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested.’
Charming, eh? Although, there’s one slight error in this definition, it specifies that ghosting occurs whilst people are dating. That’s not quite accurate. In the ever increasing popularity of dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble, Grindr… (the list goes on), ghosting can occur at any point. In fact, it doesn’t even just occur from someone you may have met ‘cyberly’, someone you may occur face to face and have met in the old fashioned way, (by old fashioned I mean reality), can equally be guilty of the same thing. Then, if a girl or guy considers asking perhaps why they’re no longer in favour, it’s considered weird! How did this become a thing when general social conduct is now seen as a taboo, and acting in a way our parents told us was out of order at childhood is now the key to success?
I watched a documentary before about an American guy who consistently talks to, dates, beds, then ghosts girls. Any little thing can be the reason as to why, they may text the wrong thing, or he might just get bored. He seemed to think this kind of thing was OK to do, because thats what people on dating apps expect…?? When did it actually get to the point that social media became the dictator of how someone should or shouldn’t act, rather than real life conversation, with, yes, you guessed it… real. life. people. Mad right?
Whether in reality, in romance, or in friendship, I think we all need to take a step back and think. Yes, the majority of communications sadly seem to go through mobile phones, but the person at the other end of that phone shares something majorly in common with you. They are also a living, breathing, human being- who’d have thought?
Imagine if you were sat, talking to someone on a bench, and right in the middle of the conversation they just stood up and left with no explanation. You’d be confused as to why, and you’d probably want to know their reasonings! Although it’s not the exact same thing as when you’re on your phone it’s a similar concept, and it’s just damn rude. Call me an old lady but I believe that basic banners need to become fashionable again, and we should all just get a bit more respect for our fellow human beings.