Thoughts

In defence of doing things on your own

Who doesn’t love me-time? Those moments where you can just sit at home and relax with a cup of tea, watch your favourite film and just shut the whole world out. In my opinion its the best sort of therapy. Who knows me better than me right? I relish the opportunity to spend time on my own, something that has now become rare.

Now don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy company, I’m sure anyone who knows me can confirm that I can be extremely needy and crave social activity, but despite that fact, sometimes I still like to take some time out and treat myself to my own attention.

I don’t think alone time should be limited to the four walls of a bedroom, or any room inside a house. Personally, if I want to spend time value alone I like to go out. By go out I don’t just mean I’ll go for a quick coffee- although that can often  be a quick fix, If I want to go out I’ll take it to the extra mile and have a full blown me-day.

This usually includes a shopping trip, and sometimes a lunch trip out as well.  By lunch trip I don’t just mean hiding in the corner at Costa with a muffin and a cup of tea, I mean going to a restaurant, sitting down, and having a meal. Sometimes more than one course too. Now, I can imagine you all sitting and thinking, ‘What a saddo’… but trust me, it’s actually extremely therapeutic. Plus, no-one can judge you for how much you eat if you’re on your own.

When you’re sat alone, whether it’s in a restaurant, on a bench in a town square, wherever, you grasp onto new things. Not to sounds too overly profound but you genuinely do see things in a different way. The people that you’d normally look past have little quirks that you wouldn’t have previously ever noticed. You see individuals, not majorities, and everyone has their own qualities that makes them amazing in their own way.

Putting all other people completely aside and thinking just about number one, the benefits of prioritising me-time is a chance to give yourself any form of therapy that you may crave. Why be embarrassed about going solo as well? You shouldn’t be in the slightest. There’s just one thing that you need to take with you if you decide to go somewhere solo, and it won’t take up much room at all, I assure you. It’s simply a little thing called confidence.

They say you can get away with anything at all if you just do it with confidence. I’m not saying you should take it too far, and start going off on a Donald Trump style rampage, I’m saying if you believe in what you’re doing, and you serve that up, then people won’t even notice anything. If you look like a nervous wreck and draw people to your attention in a negative way, then they’ll look at you in that way.

So, take a leaf out of my book and just do you.

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